There are several positions you may feel when trying to find purpose. It may be triggered by a loss of someone close, end of a relationship, sudden realization, ongoing pain, no opportunities, or just chronic apathy. We will go over a few of these and offer suggestions and links to further assistance. Finding purpose is a discovery that can be guided but the discovery itself is up to each one of us. We try to help in that path here. Are you feeling lost, nothing feels worth doing. You just feel like nothing you can do is worth anything. That you have nothing to offer and don’t have a plan. This is being lost and having no plan.
When you find yourself feeling lost with no plan, so what do you do? The first step is to start prospecting for interests. One way of doing this is going to the library. What draws your interest, what are you looking for? This interest does not mean you need to go out and get a formal education in this area, but if you do that’s great. However you can learn all you can in this area and become a topic expert. There are endless opportunities get on the Internet, blog about and get a following. While you do this there are many opportunities for advertising and affiliate money to be made.
Another plan would be to find someone who is an expert in this area and ask if you can shadow them for a while. You could learn a lot and be inspired to make the next move. People love talking about what they do and all that is involved. They can refer you to others to do the same, this may lead to an opportunity in this area. It may not be exactly what you want to do but you may be on the right path.
How about what has really upset you in the past month or so. Is it a cause, relationship, or something else. Did it lead to a bad outcome? Was it bad judgement? Can you help others in this situation or to avoid it. Help those on the wrong path.
Maybe you have skills but are at a loss for how to put them to use, there are no opportunities. You send out your resume but it seems to be going into a black hole. It gets frustrating when you do this time after time and nothing happens. You know if you just had a chance, you would be fantastic. This is lost and no opportunity.
The frustration of the job search can really bring a person down. If its not working, have some people look over your resume and cover letter, in these days of keyword searches and certain subtle mistakes you may be taking yourself out of the race. If you have done this, try the shadowing method, a little research can get you in touch with someone in the type of position you are looking for. Ask to talk to them or shadow them, this gives you insight and builds your network.
Are you getting by or maybe not. Your job you dread going to, its more negative than positive overall. You have trouble getting along with people of just are pretty apathetic while you are there. You serve your time, do the minimum and can’t wait for each work day to over. You must start deciding what you want to do. Come up with a plan to transition, the sooner, the better.
Once you have made the decision to change, this will get your mind working, it is relief in itself. You must decide what you want to do. This path of discovery may not take you where you initially think. If you have a career plan that’s great, start researching it learning all you can. Start networking toward the change, see what related activities you can attend. Go online, research related forum and blogs. Learn all you can. Stay on it, offer help, keep learning, opportunities will happen. It may not be exactly what you want but get your foot in the door.
Maybe you have suffered a loss, a death, end of a relationship. Your reason for going on is gone. You have no reason to go on. This is lost and empty.
This is probably the toughest to overcome. Find someone you can talk to about your feelings, this can help you relieve the pain. Support groups are another great way to deal with it, others who have are in a similar situation can advise you and help you deal with it. Over time you may become the go to person for others, your painful experience and path out can provide relief to others you come across in the future.
Your expectations were crushed by the loss, you must start adjusting your expectations. Life has taken a new direction for you, start adjusting to your new life. Look for activities that give you comfort but are not destructive. Get involved with others, volunteer or direct your pain toward a project.
Celebrate life, if you had a death, know the person you lost would not want you suffering. They would want you to move on, remembering them but not letting the loss tear you apart. Don’t see it as a loss but think of the time you had with them as a gift, precious time with that person. You will gain an appreciation for life that is stronger than ever.
Maybe you realized you are on the wrong path, it may be addiction or caught up with the wrong group and you only see a bad future ahead. This is lost on the wrong path.
Have you realized you are in with the wrong group or on the wrong path. Whether it is addiction or just the wrong group of people you know things must change. Once again, you must reach out. Try to find someone who has been there, done that. They can advise you, change is never easy but with help and good advice, you can put a plan together with the right changes to get you where you want to be.
There is always your local religious organization. It works for so many but it’s not for all. If you are so inclined know you will be welcomed. It offers a peace of mind so many have found.
We will continue to build on this with your feedback. We are building a base of knowledge to help people in planning and dealing with life’s problems, feel free to send your feedback and suggestions to email@example.com. Our goal is the improvement in lifestyle through better planning and knowing how to deal with common problems life throws at everyone.
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